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9 Signs You Are Dating An Abuser

People who are abusive toward others don’t hide who they are, we just give them opportunities to hurt us by giving them too many chances to correct their behavior. The truth is, if the person you are dealing with is an adult, they will probably never change their behavior. They are looking for someone who will accept it. In that case, you get to decide if you will be abused. There are so many ways abusers show...

22 Years of Healing From Sexual Assault

I have always been a “broadcaster” of sorts.  In grade school, I loved giving oral reports in class.  I went on to be in One Act Plays in high school and enrolled in tv broadcasting in college until a professor told me my southern accent was too “thick” and I would never succeed as an anchor.  I changed my major to public relations and used my communication skills in other ways to share messages. I truly believed in the...

Try To Replace The Bad Memories With Good Ones

I met my abuser when I was 17. He seemed like the best friend I had always wanted. I grew up with adults and I was used to that and so I didn’t get along with people my age all that well but he was different, he listened to me about everything I wanted to talk about. So I talked his ear off and fell in love. I didn’t see the controlling side of him but everyone else did. I moved in with him 3 months after I...

5 Ways You Hurt Yourself More than Your Abuser Doe...

It would be easy to shield ourselves from the emotional and physical blows inflicted by the people who have hurt us yet we sometimes forget that our own actions contribute to the cycle of abuse that appears to be perpetual in our lives. We abuse ourselves by the attitudes and perspectives we hold concerning our past abusive situations. How? Take a look at these 7 self directed abuse tactics that if we can recognize and stop,...

I Used EMDR Therapy To Change My Life

I had been sexually assaulted by a neighbor and my therapist then told me about a new procedure in therapy and asked if I would like to do it, which I did. It was called EMDR, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. We used it on not only the assault but also my childhood. The therapist has you lay or sit on the couch or whatever. You wear head phones and hear this beeping and hold these round things that kind of...

How to Forgive the Unforgivable and Learn to Trust...

She called me right after midnight, crying hysterically: “He cheated, he actually cheated on me!” It’s my friend, Marina. Pressing the phone to my ear, I freeze. Andrei? Her husband of twelve years? How!? They have three kids together! This is beyond awful. Next morning, in Marina’s house, I’m sitting across from her. She looks sunken and drained, continually blowing her nose and wiping her red, puffy eyes. “He is just like...

Why Did The Cosby Accusers Take So Long To Report ...

It is all over the news lately. Every day it seems another woman comes forward to accuse famed comedian Bill Cosby of drugging and raping her. To date there are more than 15 women voicing their accusations publicly, with some reports of abuse dating back 30 and 40 years. The general public is divided into two camps; those who have grown up being entertained and inspired by Bill Cosby, therefore refusing to believe any...

I May Not Have Everything But I Have More Than I S...

I was born into an abusive life. My parents were alcoholic and drug addicted. I was a twin in the womb, but, She died before we were born. Most kids have early memories of their mother telling them they are loved. I have memories of being told the wrong twin died and that I was a mistake. I can’t blame my father, he wasn’t there, he worked out if town and when he was home, he was wasted. It was always my mother....